Read powerful birthmother letters from women who have placed their baby with the help of Adoptions First. These letters will inspire you and help you with your decision.

BirthMother Letters

Dear Birthmother,

My name is Desarae and I would like to share my story with you as to why I chose adoption. My goal in sharing this birthmother letter with you is to let you know that we understand how difficult the decision you’re contemplating is emotionally and we are here for you!

I am 22 years old and when I found out I was pregnant again, I was so shocked and unhappy. The father of the baby was unstable, but he said he was excited and would be there for us. But in fact he was not telling me the truth. I ended my connection with him when I found him cheating on me while I was three months pregnant.  After ending our relationship, I felt alone and very insecure.

I had a job and worked until I was seven months along. But at seven months, I was told not to work. Without a job, I had very little means for getting things ready for my baby. I had considered adoption my entire pregnancy, but I was so scared of what people would say. Because I was afraid of what others would think, I did not even call Adoptions First until after the birth of my son. The father was in the picture for our son when he was born, but then stopped coming around when our baby was just 3 weeks old.

I loved my child so much I just could not imagine him growing up wondering why he did not have a dad, or worse, why his dad only came around sometimes. I finally got the nerve to call some agencies about finding a loving family for my son.

After making two phone calls where no one answered, I started to question if it was the right decision for my baby.  I ended up calling one more and it happened to be Adoptions First. Madison answered the phone and was absolutely wonderful. I did not feel judged at all by her. She understood what I was going through and just wanted to help. She talked for a bit with me and put me in touch with Elisabeth.

Elisabeth has helped me so much in so many ways.  First we talked to make sure I was certain of my decision. She sent me a package with a few families who wanted to love another child or their first child.

It was so hard to choose because they all seemed so wonderful. I followed my heart and two families really stood out to me. I asked Elisabeth for more information to better know the families. Finally, Ii just kept thinking about one family in particular. I asked if we could talk to them about adopting my baby boy.

The rest is history. I spoke on the phone with the family and it was just an amazing connection. They took care of arranging for me and my two boys to fly to them so we could meet. We met and spent time getting to know each other. I was able to show them how to do “the parent thing” since it was their first time. We signed the paperwork together with Elisabeth and an attorney. Everything was private and I placed my baby directly with the family.

It was everything I could have ever imagined and more. We keep in touch and I am getting to watch my son grow and watch a family grow as well. I feel so proud and happy with my decision.  One day my child will know that I just wanted the best for him just like you want for your child.

BirthMother Katie

Hello, my name is Katie. I’m a birthmother and a mother.

Thank you for taking the time in reading my letter. I want to let you know what you are considering, adoption, is a beautiful process filled with love and selflessness. It takes courage just to consider the possibility of adoption and I commend you for it. You are not alone, so I hope that you don’t ever feel that way.

I want to share a little bit of my story with you. I had my 1st daughter in March of 2012. I had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship & I was broken. I met a guy through a friend & he was just a complete rebound & I had been pretty intoxicated the night I became pregnant. Me & him never really had any kind of relationship. We didn’t get along very well. He was into some hard core drugs & I didn’t want to be apart of. He was in & out of jail, constantly in trouble. He didn’t meet my 1st daughter till she was almost 7 months old. When we went to visit him, he purposely got me pregnant. He said if he was going to have anymore kids might as well be with the same mom. I had told him I wasn’t ready for anymore kids for a while, I wanted to wait till I was more stable. I honestly didn’t know what I was going to do.

A close friend from high school told me about Elisabeth and Adoptions First. She had gone through the adoption experience and said so many wonderful things, she shared her story with me and so I contacted Elisabeth. Elisabeth was so open and friendly. She made everything simple to understand and truly deeply cares. She was there for me whenever. She listened to everything. She really got to know me, we were very close through the entire process.

I had never considered adoption but I didn’t fully understand it either at the time. All you think is, I’m giving up my child, I feel horrible, I’m a bad mom. There’s honestly so much more than that. I did feel bad cause I kept my 1st daughter but I didn’t know how I was going to raise 2 kids by myself so close apart. But I felt in my heart this was the best option. I wasn’t giving my child up, I was giving her and my 1st daughter a better opportunity. To make sure they both would be taken care of, provided for, and never want for anything. I felt as having to do it by myself it would be hard because I would need to work a lot and I wouldn’t get the time I would want with them. The time that they deserved.

Elisabeth helped me with choosing the adopted parents, she literally helped me find the perfect family for me. When I first talked to the Adopted Mom, we instantly clicked. She was very down to earth & the sweetest person. I could hear in her voice how happy she was just to be able to talk to me. She wanted to meet me before the baby came, so we planned it out when I was going to have my ultrasound to find out what gender the baby was. It was such a wonderful moment when we found out it was a girl. I gave the Adopted mom the ultrasound pictures so she could take them home. I was having a scheduled C-section because I had one previously with my 1st daughter. I asked the Adopted Mom to be in the room with me when I had the baby. She became emotional and was very happy that I asked her to be in the room. I wanted her to be the 1st person to hold her and that meant the world to her. I wanted her to be able to bond with the baby as soon as she came into the world so they could grow a strong connection. June of 2013 is when she came into world and that’s the day I help complete a family too.

I have an open adoption, I see pictures of my little girl all the time. They are one of the best things that I receive. I always look forward to them. I went on to work full time & get help from my mom. She was supportive through the entire process. I literally focused on work & my daughter. I had no interest in getting in a relationship, since my luck with men sucked. Plus, it is sometimes hard with dating and being a single mom. Not every guy wants to get involved with someone who has a kid. Than one day a guy I worked with, walked into my life. Completely unexpected. He changed my outlook forever. He took on the role of dad for my daughter. He stepped up when he didn’t have to. He chose to love my daughter and be there for her, to help raise her. Just because she is not his blood, means absolutely nothing to him. He is the most amazing person I have ever met. I admire him for what he chose to do.

Elisabeth, David, & the Adoptions First team were very warm and welcoming. They were there whenever I needed them. I can’t express enough how truly caring everyone is. David is very caring, he shared a personal story with me, it was a beautiful story. He made sure that I was taken care of. Even after the adoption. Elisabeth will always have a special place in my heart for all she helped me with. She is an amazing person. No one ever made me feel ashamed of my decision. They made me feel good about it and supported everything that I wanted through the process.

Adoption can be scary when you don’t really know much about it. I have been where you are right now, reading a letter from a birth mother. Anyone who has written a letter has done so for all the same reasons. To give better insight and share a process of love. I won’t lie, there are days where I break down and I cry because it has made me sad that I’m missing out on things in her life as I’m watching my 1st daughter grow but than I realize that yes I get to miss out on the little things in life but I’m giving her the best opportunity for her with people that truly love her. I don’t lie in regret because of my decision of adoption. I am human so I will get sad about it but in the end I know more and more that my decision was the best one I have ever made. Everything honestly got better with time, both of my girls are well provided for, taken care of, and loved. I met the love of my life and am finding out what I want to do with the rest of my life. My life wouldn’t have gone this way if I hadn’t found Adoptions First. I want to be able to help any birth mother that is going through this situation. Even if you need me to just listen and for someone to talk to that’s be there. You are not alone and I would be happy to help in any way I can. You are always more than welcome to contact me if you would like. If you would like to just ask Elisabeth for my info.

Thank you again for reading little bit about my story.

Katie J

BirthMother Savannah

First of all, I wanted to say that any mother that is reading this and considering the choice of adoption I commend you for even considering this act of selflessness because it is truly one of the best gifts you can give another human being.

My name is Savannah and I am a birthmother and I placed my daughter for adoption with the agency in 2014. I don’t want to give my whole life story but I do want to tell you a little bit about myself and how I came to the choice of adoption.

It started in the year 2013 which was beyond one of the worst years of my life. I was completely broken. I had found myself addicted to drugs, in trouble with the law and had lost custody of my two sons. I felt completely hopeless, and on top of it I had just learned that I was expecting a child. I first want to say that I was one of those women that thought I could never be able to make a choice such as adoption as I viewed it as something that I may possibly never be able to recover from and was I completely wrong about that. I was about 8 months along in my pregnancy, I had just completed treatment for my drug addiction and was doing good in a lot of ways however I was also about to have a baby and I had no idea what I was going to do or even how to start. I started considering the choice of adoption considering my situation and as I did not want my daughter to ever have to go through the things I had to as a child. I remember the day when Elisabeth called me as if it was yesterday. I was in the hospital having some health concerns regarding my pregnancy. I received a phone call and I did not recognize the phone number but something told me to answer it so I did, and that decision has forever changed my life for the good. I was so lucky to be able to find this agency. They were so comforting and they did not pressure me in any way to make this decision. They were there for me anytime of the day or night if I needed them. I can honestly say that because of working with this particular agency and the support system they have setup for birthmothers I was able to completely transform and change my life. I do not look at this decision as one that I am neither ashamed of or regret. It has opened new doors in my life that I never thought was possible. They found a wonderful family for my daughter that I was able to meet and spend time with before I had her. The whole process was so easy and not hectic in anyway. They do not treat you like you are beneath them or that you have anything to be ashamed of as in my situation I was terrified of feeling that from other people. I can say now 2 1/2 years later I am thriving in my sobriety, I have regained the relationships with my children and I am looking forward to starting a new career path in this field because I want to help other birthmothers out there that feel there is no hope. There is hope I am living proof of that, the family that I placed my daughter with sends me pictures regularly and still has contact with me. It has just been a wonderful experience and one that when I look back on it I definitely do not regret it as I gave the greatest gift of all and not only did I help complete a family, David Ellis, Elisabeth and the whole staff of Adoptions First helped to rebuild and save not only myself but my family as well. They gave my boys their mother back and I will forever be grateful to them for everything they have done for myself and my daughter and my family.

If you are considering adoption and have read this, trust in me that you have come to the right place. These people are truly gifts from God and you will be in the right hands no matter what decision you choose to make as it is a difficult one but a way to look at it is that it may honestly be one of the best decisions you could have ever made in your life and the life of your unborn child.
Thank you

BirthMother Jessica

Dear Birthmom,

My name is Jessica.  Before I discovered my route to adoption, I was a clueless 26 year old single mother to a 2 1/2 year old that I was already raising alone.

I was living in a small town and met a man who I thought was amazing. He turned out to be your typical jerk. We would see each other every day and he’d tell me how beautiful I was. Then one day he dropped a bomb… he was married with a child at home.  When I told him I was pregnant, he said, “It is not mine.” I sat and cried. What do I do? How do I tell my mother I’m pregnant again?

A few weeks went by and a clinic confirmed I was six weeks pregnant. I looked at my options: raise it, abort it, or choose adoption.  I thought adoption was right for me. I went searching and found an agency that sent their packet. I filled it out and there it sat. I never mailed it. When I was eight weeks pregnant, I went to have an abortion. When I got there, I couldn’t go through with it.

I moved back home. I finally saw my doctor and he said I was four months pregnant. As I felt the baby girl growing inside me, I went searching again.  I found Elisabeth from Adoptions First and Elisabeth changed my life so much. When I had no one, she was there for me ALWAYS.

After six months, my mother asked me, “What are you going to do?” I told her, “I’m going to place my baby for adoption.” She said, “I can’t understand how you can be pregnant for nine months and just give your baby away.”  It hurt me that she could not understand.

Next I had to look for a family for the child growing inside of me. I found Nicole, a beautiful free spirit. She loved everything that I loved. She had done all these amazing things but all she had ever wanted is to be a mother. I knew she was the one. At 7 months, I told Elisabeth that I chose Nicole as she was perfect in every way.

When I first met Nicole, I was so nervous. We both live in California, so she drove down to my house. “What if she doesn’t like me?”  But the conversation flowed so easily. As I watched her play with my daughter, I knew I was making the right choice. I told Elisabeth how perfect she was and how it all seemed so unreal. As it turns out, Nicole had said the same things about me to Elisabeth. I told Elisabeth all of my plans and that I wanted Nicole to be at the hospital when it was time.

Time slowly passed and my baby girl was getting bigger and stronger. Boy did she take a toll on my body. She wanted out! I made countless trips to labor and delivery and did whatever my doctor told me to in order to keep her healthy. At 34 weeks, I was placed on bed rest. It was the slowest seven weeks of my life.

I called Elisabeth crying one day and she asked, “What’s wrong Jessica?” I told her they found something wrong with the baby’s heart and Nicole won’t want her. Now what will I do? This baby is coming. She calmed me down and said, “Nicole is going nowhere.” I was terrified when I called Nicole and told her the news, but unbelievably she stuck by my side.

My delivery date was coming near. Enter Amy. Amy is so awesome! She works for Adoptions First and is also a Birth Mother. We talked for what seemed like hours. Finally someone who could understand how I was feeling.

The day finally came to have my baby. As I was waiting to go into the operating room for my C-section, they asked if the baby had a name?  I turned to Nicole, and ever so timidly, she said, “What do you think of Jane?” Jane was perfect. Nicole seemed just as nervous as I was and then it happened. I heard baby Jane cry.

After I delivered, they moved me to a recovery room. I just cried as my friend held my hand. I couldn’t breathe. I couldn’t think. All I could do was cry. They moved me to my room where I sat with Amy, my friend and my mom.

Once everyone left, I got a text from Nicole. She wanted to know if I wanted to see Jane. I held her for an entire hour as she slept peacefully in my arms. Three days slowly went by.  I could not bear to leave my room and face the other happy parents while I was childless. I just sat in the dark in my room and bawled. I put on a brave face anytime Nicole, her mom, and Jane were around. They brought Jane in again and both agreed she must know my loud mouth. J Whenever I would hold Jane she would just sleep. I’d give her back to Nicole and instantly she would wake up and cry. Nicole nervously walked around the room cradling Jane looking to her mom for advice. I knew she would be a great mom just watching her tend to Jane.

Finally the day came and I signed the papers to terminate my parental rights. Instead of feeling frightened, I felt so relieved.

The day I was going home, my best friend took so many photos! All the nurses snuck into my room to give me hugs. There was one nurse named Tiffany who was simply AMAZING! She went out of her way to make everything perfect. She snuck into my room and told me while she hugged me, “I had to come to your room to see how you are doing. I think what you have done is so amazing. You are a beautiful, strong, amazing person.” She gave me a cupcake and said keep in touch.

Before I left the hospital, I asked to say goodbye to Jane. My mom got to hold her and my daughter met her. In that moment, we all came together as one: Amy, Nicole, her mom and me… and we just cried. Nicole’s mom hugged me and said, “We will never forget you. Thank you,” as she sobbed into my shoulder. Then I saw Nicole and she was speechless. All she could do was cry and say, “Thank you.” I just remember telling everyone, “It’s going to be ok,” and then it was time to go. I couldn’t face Jane. It felt as if a piece of me was ripped from my chest, but deep down I knew she would have a wonderful life. I looked at Nicole and told her she’s going to be an amazing mother. As I was pushed down the hall it seemed as if everyone were staring at me. So, I just looked at my feet, waited for the car, and went home.

When no one was there for me, I had the staff of Adoptions First. They never judged me, never laughed at me and never questioned me. They were always there for me. To this day I still talk with Amy and Elisabeth. I love these incredible women. They picked me up when I was down and for that I am ever so grateful. Without Adoptions First, I would have never met Nicole. Nicole is an amazing woman and she continues to send me updates on how Jane is doing.

I am ever so grateful for her and to all of the staff at Adoptions First.

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